Remember what I said in my last post about how I was being so optimistic and whatnot? It’s harder than it seems, but I think everyone can be optimistic if they just try. I’ve found that being optimistic is absolutely a choice. To generalize, I’ll say that we all have two choices. We can either be happy no matter what happens to us, or we can let our circumstances bring us down. What is the most common circumstance that brings people down? I’m no expert, but I think it is loneliness. When I am lonely, I feel so many negative emotions: sadness. anger. bitterness. like I’m not worth anything. jealousy. inferiority. The list could really go on forever.
Everyone suffers, okay? You will be fine. Loneliness and sorrow come at the worst times (when is it ever a good time to be lonely?), but here’s the thing: YOU AREN’T ALONE! Can you believe that? You have someone who cares about you. He is with you all the time. He knows the deepest, darkest corners of your heart and He suffered them for you. He is the greatest example of empathy because He has truly felt every single emotion that you have felt. Jesus Christ hears your pleas and was willing to take upon himself every single moment of your life. He rejoices with you. He cries with you. He knows you. Don’t forget that. Maybe I’m just writing this for myself, but really my hope is that someone will come across this and be able to better control their outlook on life.
Nothing good comes of wallowing in your own self-pity, so I’ve made a few goals for myself that I will share in the hopes that this inspires someone somewhere to choose to be happy rather than seeing the world in a negative light. I mean, honestly..would you rather be happy or sad? I’m not expert here either, but my guess would be that everyone everywhere is searching for happiness. I’ve never heard of anyone that was searching for sadness; that’s just crazy! Okay, so I’ve never been a really goal-oriented person..which means I have never really made any goals for myself. Of course I’ve made really long-term goals, like: get married, have a family, live happily ever after, etc. but I’ve made a few short-term goals to keep me on my toes this summer.
1. Exercise DAILY. Exercise releases endorphins..yada yada yada..they make you happy. Therefore, exercise makes you happy.
2. Say my prayers. Heavenly Father wants to hear from me. I want to hear from Him. How does that work? PRAYER.
3. Buy a planner. I always do this in the hopes that it will somehow help me get my life together. It never works. BUT I think I can do it. Optimism, right?
4. Believe in myself. It’s about time that I start believing in my abilities and developing my God-given talents. They’ve been sitting for too long.
5. Help other people. SOMEHOW I am going to find at least one person every day that needs some kind of help. It could be my mom, dad, sisters..dog..I don’t know who it will be, but I think it’s a manageable goal. Even the smallest of smiles could make the biggest difference in someone’s day.
I didn’t want to make some novel list of unattainable goals that wouldn’t really help me, so I kept it short and sweet at five. I would encourage anyone who wants to make some goals of their own (or use mine, I don’t care) to do so! If you follow through..I promise you’ll see a difference. I’m already seeing a difference and I just started this whole “goal” thing! It will be rewarding. Be happy, okay? If you can’t do it on your own and you don’t want to turn to your Heavenly Father or Jesus Christ..come to me. I’m not anywhere near as good as they are, but I want to make people happy.
“True happiness is to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence on the future. Not to amuse ourselves with either hopes or fears, but to rest satisfied with what we have, which is sufficient; for he that is so wants nothing. The greatest blessings of mankind are within us and within our reach. A wise man is content with his lot, whatever it may be, without wishing for what he has not.” -Lucas Seneca